Wednesday, December 5, 2012

The Great Green Bean Standoff

Currently Wyatt has an aversion to green beans and MANY other veggies and random foods.  I know it is a phase.  He used to eat or at least try anything.  Now if I try to get him to eat anything new he puts it in his mouth, gags (doesn't even try to chew it) and spits it out. 

Wyatt loves breakfast food and PB&J's are always yummy.  The kid will kill for a trip thru the drive thru for some nuggets and fries (he is his momma's son).  He will eat healthy snacks of fruit and cheese, carrots and yogurt smoothies.  But when dinner time rolls around, so begins the battle.

I TRY to cook some sort of healthy dinner at least 5 nights a week.  I slave over a hot stove while playing referee between he and Abigail, and try to time it correctly so it is ready to eat, yummy and hot when my hubby walks in the door.

Then we sit down to our nicely prepared dinner and......all hell breaks loose.  Wyatt will take one look at what is on his plate (and it is normal stuff, nothing strange), and exclaim, without taking even ONE bite. "I'M DONE!" and demand to be let down.  This triggers Abigail (who was happily eating meatloaf and green beans) to throw her hands up and holler "DONE!" Mind you, this usually happens even before my own butt hits my seat as I have just served everyone else's plates......and you wonder why I am so skinny! Getting the chance to sit down for 10 minutes of a peaceful meal is just NOT happening at our house....or at least it wasn't.

Earlier this week, I declared "I AM DONE!" (note I do this a lot - I am done with cleaning because people just keep trashing the house, I am done with a family member because they are driving me crazy, etc).  JB knows it is just my catch phrase of exasperation.

But on Sunday night, I decided I was going to win.  So I told Wyatt he was not getting down from the table until he ate one teeny tiny bite of green beans.  There was lots of screaming, crying,  begging happening from both of us.  Finally after an hour and a half, Abigail was headed to bed and JB came to "relieve me".  I came back from putting Abigail down to Wyatt smiling, eating a banana. 

Me: "He ate the green bean?!!?
JB: "No, but it wasn't going to happen."
Wyatt: "Look, me eating my banana like a monkey. Ooh Ooh Aah Aah".


SO, I did what I do many times for help in these situations - I went to the internet and looked on the mom boards.  And I found out we are definitely not the only ones messing with this and we are going about it wrong.

I found a comment from a mom who offered the idea of serving them just as you have, but with a couple more extra healthy options on their plates.  Change dinner time to stop being such a time of fighting and bring back the harmony.  So the next evening I did just that, adding some apple slices and few pieces of cheese on his plate.  IT WORKED.  We had a pleasant meal - long enough for me to actually eat the food I had cooked.  Abigail finished her food.  Wyatt mostly ate his apples and cheese and then tried a few bites of the chicken. 

So this is our new plan of action.  Stop making dinner a time of tension and fighting.  Let it go back to being a good family time and then gradually start asking Wyatt to introduce different foods back into his diet.  I will keep you updated on our dinner battles.  Please feel free to chime in with tips!

1 comment:

  1. I think your new strategy is perfect. You know we have an extreme picky eater to the point of needing therapy! We do NOT make it a battle. Eat what you want, but this is dinner. I'm not making something else. If you don't eat this, the only thing you get is 'squirty fruit' (a.k.a. the pouches of baby food). So then he's getting fruits and vegetables in some form or fashion. Sometimes he eats dinner, sometimes he doesn't, but he's not starting and it's not a fight.